what does elope mean?
I get asked this quite a bit, what does elope mean? What’s the difference between and elopement and a wedding? Can we elope anywhere?
Eloping traditionally means getting married without telling anyone, especially family and friends. This often involves a sudden and secretive departure to avoid any objections or complications from loved ones. In contemporary contexts, eloping can also refer to a more private, intimate wedding ceremony that doesn't include a large number of guests, even if the couple doesn't keep it a secret.
Eloping started in Scotland
The concept of eloping has historical ties to Scotland, particularly during the 18th and 19th centuries. One famous location associated with elopements is Gretna Green, a village just over the border from England. During that time, English law required couples to be at least 21 years old to marry without parental consent, while Scottish law allowed marriage without parental consent at a younger age, with the minimum age being 16.
The romantic bit…
As a result, many young English couples would "elope" to Scotland to marry quickly and without the need for parental approval. Gretna Green, being the first village across the border, became synonymous with these runaway marriages, with blacksmiths and other locals often officiating the ceremonies. This historical context has contributed to the romantic and adventurous connotations of eloping.
Can I elope anywhere in Scotland?
Yes, Scotland is the only place in the UK that you can elope anywhere, as long as you follow the legal requirements for marriage in the country. Here are the steps and considerations for eloping in Scotland:
Notice of Marriage: Both parties must submit a marriage notice to the registry office in the district where you intend to marry. This must be done at least 29 days before the wedding, but it is recommended to allow 6-8 weeks to ensure all paperwork is processed in time.
Marriage Schedule: Once the notices are processed, the registry office will prepare a marriage schedule, which is a document that authorizes the marriage to take place. This must be collected in person by one of the parties at the registry office before the ceremony.
Legal Officiant: You need to have an authorized officiant to conduct the ceremony. This can be a registrar from the local council or a religious officiant who is authorized to perform marriages in Scotland. I have a list of some brilliant ones I have had the pleasure of working with.
Witnesses: Scottish law requires at least two witnesses to be present at the ceremony. These witnesses must be at least 16 years old. I have had the pleasure of not only being the photographer but also a witness to many of my couples elopements.
Location: You can choose any location for your elopement in Scotland, including outdoor venues like beaches, forests, mountains, or historic sites. Many people opt for romantic or scenic spots such as castles, lochs, or even remote countryside locations.
Returning the Marriage Schedule: After the ceremony, the signed marriage schedule must be returned to the registry office within three days to have the marriage officially registered.
Popular Elopement Locations in Scotland
Gretna Green: Famous for runaway marriages.
Isle of Skye: Known for its dramatic landscapes.
Edinburgh: Offers historic sites like Edinburgh Castle or intimate settings in its beautiful gardens.
Highlands: Provides stunning natural backdrops.
Lochs: Loch Lomond and Loch Ness are popular for their beauty.
Planning Tips
Hire a Local Planner: Consider hiring a local wedding planner to help navigate legal requirements and logistics. I have a list of some lovely ones I have worked with ion you would like some recommendations.
Weather Considerations: Be prepared for Scotland's unpredictable weather, especially if you plan to marry outdoors.
By following these steps, you can enjoy a romantic and legally recognized elopement anywhere in Scotland.
If you are planning to elope and would like to enquire about availability for your special day then just get in touch.
If you would like to see some more galleries of elopements in Scotland then click here.
You can also see behind the scenes from my elopements on myTik Tok.